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#AtoZChallenge T for Tragedy

April 23, 2018

The Blogging from A to Z April Challenge is an annual challenge put out to bloggers to publish a post from A-Z every day in April, except for Sundays. April 1 is A, and so on throughout the month. The theme I have chosen for 2018 is The Story Of Me

T is for Tragedy. I usually prefer to be positive or to find a positive angle with a difficult situation. But The Story Of Me wouldn’t be accurate, without mentioning the tragedies that have visited me.

There have only been three tragedies in my life, but they have been huge and have impacted my life in such a way, that life as I knew it, was never again the same, after each event occurred.

House fire

In August 1988, our house, which was brick and only three years old, burnt to the ground at about 3.30pm on a sunny Friday afternoon. I had been at home all day, and left to collect the children from school at about 3pm. As I was driving to the school a fire truck passed me, its lights flashing. I had no idea that it was going to my house.

After an investigation, we found out that the fire started in one of the bedrooms, and was found to be caused by a fault with the electrical wiring. We bought the house when it was one year old and after the fire, we found out the builder had many claims of faulty work against him.

We lost everything, and life was very disrupted for a few months, as we stayed in temporary accommodation. Fortunately, both the house and its contents were insured, and before long we moved into a beautiful house on two acres where family life  was very settled and very happy.

Craig

005 (3)There is no doubt that the worst day of my life was Thursday November 2, 1995. That was the day that my beautiful son Craig, was killed in a car accident at age 18. Craig’s friend Fiona also died in the accident. It goes without saying that this devastated me and it still affects my life. I have learned to live with the fact that Craig died, and these days I try to think about the good times with Craig, rather than the accident that took his life. I have written about Craig many times over the years. If you’d like to get to know my son, here are the links:

 

 Memories of Craig
My Son Craig
20 years ago today.

Divorce

I long ago recovered from the shock of my marriage breaking down, and I’m now over the fact that I am divorced. The reason I call this a tragedy is due to the affect that it had on my family. It used to be that our house was central to the family, but since the divorce, I get to see my family only occasionally. This is due to distance, and other reasons that I’m not sure about.

When I separated, I walked away from Shepparton to start a new leave. I left behind my beautiful new house, my much loved garden, my friends and my two gorgeous dogs. I was only able to take one dog, Matilda with me. She was always devoted to me, but I’m sure she sensed that all wasn’t well, as she became more and more devoted to me after we were alone. My whole life changed including my sense of who I am. Since I was 20, I was a wife, and suddenly I was a single person. I tried so hard to rebuild my life and be happy again. I’m pleased to say that I was successful in this and life is now better than ever.

I don’t mention the above events to gain sympathy. I mention them only because it’s not possible to write The Story Of Me, without these three events in my life being included. I would much prefer to focus on the joy in my life, of which there is much.

Please visit again to see my story unfold. 

Jennifer

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7 Comments
  1. ❤️
    Truly devastating moments in your life 😔

  2. Oh Jennifer you have had much more than you fair share of tragedy and yet look at the strong woman you are. Thank you for sharing your life and I am so sorry for the loss of you son. I can’t imagine what it must be like and I know that you will never forget. Sending you love and hugs and you truly are inspirational. xxx

  3. That is a lot to have dealt with in life Jennifer – a lot of us manage to go through life without any major loss, and to have been handed three seems really unfair. It is a testiment to you that you’ve come through it all with positivity and purpose – I really admire you for that.

    Leanne | http://www.crestingthehill.com.au
    T for Take Control

  4. Our tragedies do shape us. My divorce was almost 30 years ago, so I’ve ceased to think about how that changed my life. I’ve moved on, but the loss of a child is a hard one to process. I know how devastated my parents were at the loss of my sister.

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